You read that last entry right. I am now single. This is the first time in the last four years or so that I've been single.
But that's all fine by me for now. I need a break from being tied to any one person. I need time and space to myself, to better myself and get myself set in life.
Don't get me wrong. A part of me still loves Jeff, and will for a long time-However, he's changed. And, no doubt, I have as well. I can't tolerate things that I used to, or pretend that certain things weren't going on or in existence. I hope he finds what he is looking for in a partner, and that he gets all that he wants out of life and love.
This breakup has really in progress the last couple of months, and the split has been occurring, really, since he made the decision to move back to his mother's house. But, the reason for that decision was solely because of his own actions and decisions.
The last thing he's said to me is that he has concluded that I used him for the duration of our relationship, just to see what I could get without giving. This, because I wouldn't give back the diamond jewelry that he gave me our first Christmas together. "But it was a promissary gift, so you should give it back."
Bullshit.
It was a Christmas gift, our very first year together. It only turned into a 'promise ring set' the following year. (A FULL YEAR LATER, he took the necklace off and then got down and turned it into a declaration gift.)
I have no intentions of giving them to him, even with his attempt to guilt trip me, and the people that I have talked to about it agree with me that I am NOT obliged to do so. (This includes one of my ex-boyfriends, as well.)
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Why the fuck would he want them back? In case he hasn't checked - used ring sets are worthless - nobody will ever pay whatever it is worth. When I divorced - my ex's ring was over a karat - nearly perfect - and guess what....worth nothing. She can have it - it would be in very poor taste to give it to someone else. Sorry - but Jeff sounds like a moron.
It is a diamond earring and necklace set, not a ring. He said he wanted to sell them, and use the money to pay on bills that he needs taken care of.
AND he wanted to make me feel bad about keeping a 'thousand dollars with of jewelry', when I know he has those bills to take care of.
I NEVER asked him to spend that kind of money on me. I don't care much about materialistic things, I've told him that again and again over the course of our relationship. That was HIS decision.
Ugh...you never ask for a gift back...regardless. Know this must be hard on you hun, but I also know you're a pretty strong person. Never settle for less than you deserve. And you deserve a lot.
awww... you are such a good friend..
So are you. ^__^
Once you're given a gift, it's yours... not the givers.
Break ups can be hard, but it sounds like this has been coming for a while! Best wishes!!
Thank you... I'm definately staying single for awhile!
Well Seana - I don't know if Jeff reads this or not - I hope he does - because he is a total idiot. Bills. You gotta be kidding me - so after three years in a relationship, instead of taking the good out of it - he wants apples and oranges to pay off a bill or two. I shake my head at his stupidity. Check it out - diamonds....once sold - are WORTHLESS, at least when compared to what they originally cost. And from the sounds of Mr. Cheapskate - I would bet if you took them to a reputable jeweler - he will tell you alot of what you need to know about them.
I know you have a history - I know a part of you loves him....but from the outside looking in - I say.........good riddance...you mark my words, he is going to be one of those guys who is still in his late forties, and screwing everything up then too. He is classic textbook 101 MANIPULATOR.
Well, I post a blog on blogger with the same exact entries that are here. He used to read that one occasionally, and I compile all the comments I get from people on here and on the other site which I post my blog. (For my future reference, hope that's okay with all of my lovely readers here on Myspace!) That way I only have to look in one place if I want to reference back to a comment...
So, really.. I have no idea if he's still reading it..but I sure hope so. Maybe he'll let go of the jewelry idea, or even better.. I hope he'll comment on this, and give more of an idea why he is so stubborn about it.
May you find yourself happier times
Gah, gift are gifts. Not, here hold onto these till I need them back
No, you do not have to give it back, it was a gift, the law is on your side
I have yet to hear one person say I should give them back..... That just tells me that I am not being selfish, nor using him... makes me feel even better about my decision to keep them.
Take a break sounds like you need it, I did that for three years and took a new outlook on life, believe me, it helps
Good luck in all you do.
Its been a rough year for alot here in Iowa..
you have a friend here, if you ever need to chat.
pfffft
go pawn the jewelery and have a party on the money!!
You deserve it!
Then go find ya some nice young thang! The best way to get over a man is get under a new one! hehe
good luck hun!
I commented on this blog on myspace..you know how to get a hold of me if you need anything
xoxo love ya
sorry to hear about the break-up. hope you're doing okay with it. and yeah, the gift is yours, you get to keep it.
None of my exes asked for any of the jewelry they bought me back. Even with their bills to be paid. They didn't try to call me a user either for keeping jewelry they bought me while dating me.
A gift is a gift simple as that. If he had given it to you he should've known he wasn't going to get it back.
Thats like buying someone an expensive christmas gift (non-jewelry) and then asking for it back when they get in a fight
Wow, can we say Jeff is a loser? say it with me Seana "Jeff is a loser." You deserve better sweetie. One day you will find a great guy that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Enjoy being single and able to mingle and find what you are looking for in a new man. One day you find your soul mate like I found mine. Keep your chin up sweetie. It will get better with time. Time heals the heart and you should know that.
freedom is a good thing to life and the like
sorry to hear about this don't let him bully or guilt you
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